A young woman went to her mother and told her about her life

and how things were so hard for her. She did not know how

she was going to make it and wanted to give up. She was

tired of fighting and struggling. It seemed as one problem

was solved, a new one arose.

Her mother took her to the kitchen. She filled three pots

with water and placed each on a high fire. Soon the pots

came to boil. In the first she placed carrots, in the second

she placed eggs, and in the last she placed ground coffee

beans. She let them sit and boil; without saying a word. In

about twenty minutes she turned off the burners. She fished

the carrots out and placed them in a bowl. She pulled the

eggs out and placed them in a bowl. Then she ladled the

coffee out and placed it in a bowl.

Turning to her daughter, she asked, 'Tell me what you see.'

'Carrots, eggs, and coffee,' she replied. Her mother brought

her closer and asked her to feel the carrots. She did and

noted that they were soft. The mother then asked the

daughter to take an egg and break it. After pulling off the

shell, she observed the hard boiled egg. Finally, the mother

asked the daughter to sip the coffee. The daughter smiled as

she tasted its rich aroma.

The daughter then asked, 'What does it mean, mother?' Her

mother explained that each of these objects had faced the

same adversity: boiling water. Each reacted differently.

The carrot went in strong, hard, and unrelenting. However,

after being subjected to the boiling water, it softened and

became weak.

The egg had been fragile. Its thin outer shell had protected

its liquid interior, but after sitting through the boiling

water, its inside became hardened.

The ground coffee beans were unique, however. After they

were in the boiling water, they had changed the water.

'Which are you?' she asked her daughter. 'When adversity

knocks on your door, how do you respond? Are you a carrot,

an egg or a coffee bean? Think of this: Which am I? Am I the

carrot that seems strong, but with pain and adversity do I

wilt and become soft and lose my strength? Am I the egg that

starts with a malleable heart, but changes with the heat?

Did I have a fluid spirit, but after a death, a breakup, a

financial hardship or some other trial, have I become

hardened and stiff? Does my shell look the same, but on the

inside am I bitter and tough with a stiff spirit and

hardened heart? Or am I like the coffee bean? The bean

actually changes the hot water, the very circumstance that

brings the pain. When the water gets hot, it releases the

fragrance and flavor. If you are like the bean, when things

are at their worst, you get better and change the situation

around you.

When the hour is the darkest and trials are their greatest

do you elevate yourself to another level? How do you handle

adversity? Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean? May

you have enough happiness to make you sweet, enough trials

to make you strong, enough sorrow to keep you human and

enough hope to make you happy. The happiest of people don't

necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the

most of everything that comes along their way. The brightest

future will always be based on a forgotten past; you can't

go forward in life until you let go of your past failures

and heartaches. When you were born, you were crying and

everyone around you was smiling. Live your life so at the

end, you're the one who is smiling and everyone around you

is crying.

You might want to send this message to those people who mean

something to you (I JUST DID); to those who have touched

your life in one way or another; to those who make you smile

when you really need it; to those who make you see the

brighter side of things when you are really down; to those

whose friendship you appreciate; to those who are so

meaningful in your life.


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