DRIVING LESSONS (PART IV)—PAST, PRESENT, AND FUTURE
I am driving to office. I am a careful driver. May be I have imbibed many
of the happiness lessons some of which help me in not getting unnecessarily agitated.
I am subconsciously thinking to Be Happy!
A brilliant idea comes to my mind. I am very observant of the traffic around
me. Both in the direction I am going and coming from the opposite direction.
On cross roads I am especially careful of the traffic moving in all the directions.
But what happens when I pass the cross road?
I nearly completely forget the traffic which I had just passed and had paid
so much of my undivided attention! It has become of no concern to me! But moments
before it was of vital importance to me. My life depended on it. I am not worrying
where all those cars and drivers have gone. Whether they were red or blue or
green cars, whether the drivers were good or bad. All this does not affect me
now at all.
Similarly, I am not concerned what is happening far away and out of my field
of vision. What cars will be crossing me at the next cross road is not my concern
at present. What is happening far away is not my worry now. If I worry about
it just now, I may cause an accident.
What I am completely and totally concerned about is the car in front of me;
the car coming from opposite direction; the car coming from my left and right.
Then I am concerned about the immediate traffic around me. I occasionally see
the rear view mirror; see the side mirrors and glance behind while changing lanes
or taking a turn.
Dwelling upon past is futile. Howsoever you worry about past it is not going
to change. Whatever has happened has happened. Similarly, worrying about future
is useless. What you dread may never happen. Do your best and hope for the best.
Live in the present, because,
“Life is now in session. Are you present?”—B. Copeland
Imagine a drive to a beautiful place. Our destination is a dream-like place.
We are thinking of our destination. Beautiful brooks, rivers, forests, country
side, hills, cities, morn, day, night, sun, rain, snow, pass by. We remain oblivious
of them. We are going to enjoy them when we reach our destination! It is only
the one who enjoys the journey who really travels.
Similarly, we go through life planning to be happy on some future day! I will
be happy after I finish my education, after I get a job, after I get married,
after I buy a computer, a car, a house, after my children have finished their
education, after they have got married. I will be happy after I retire. That
day will come and go but I will never be happy. If I cannot be happy now, how
can I be so on some future day! Happiness does not come automatically after
some day; it does not depend on worldly possessions. If you cannot be happy in
the process of achieving some goal you cannot be happy after obtaining that goal.
If you cannot enjoy the journey you cannot enjoy the destination. To be happy
you must live in the present.
“Yesterday is ashes; tomorrow wood. Only today does the fire burn brightly.”—Old